My father purchased a piece of land in a remote village close to Visakhapatnam City. He used to tell us on what we all can do there, and how much value it might have appreciated in the years passed. He left us in 1988 with the same belief that we had a great property worth good amount and we three sons would be comfortable with that. After a few years, once we settled down we went to see the land and understand what more we needed to do and realized that the property was occupied several years ago by another and even that party won the battle legally as well because the the landlord who sold the land didnt get the signatures from his children.We and many others lost the property and were told that there would be nothing left for us.
From this incident I was wondering, just because we came to know about this now, can anyone take out the happiness and assurance that my father had during his entire life? What difference that could make to us if we still had that property without doing anything on the land? At the end, I felt it is a feeling rather than reality that matters. In this large materialistic world, we are all still driven by feelings. Many of my team members come to me with complaints on why they are not promoted and they ask this question only when they see one or two of their colleagues are promoted. Otherwise they could be comfortable. Ambani brothers are still not happy only because each of them felt his brother seemed to be getting a better share. Whereas both of them got everything just by being son of a great business man and they never understood that.
Taking to my case, I was very happy when someone purchased the copies of the book I wrote. The money I get from those books is not significant compared to what I have been earning from my profession. But the book was my creation and when I see some returns it used to give me more happiness than what I was getting as a routine for the work that I was doing for my employer as a commitment.
Many feelings that we get from visuals of TV, Movie screens are all just feelings and not realities. If someone comes and reminds that what we see is just from a few pixels and not real, can the feeling go away?
We spend a lot of time with our close friends, relatives and family members. When they are no more can we, along with their bodies- bury the feelings that we had with them?
For every outcome each individual has different feelings.
